The Unnecessary Guilt for Being Quiet

It was on last night, words dropped before i could be ready to comprehend wisely, brought me to some unintended feeling of being insulted. Her way of talking at a slight glance was completely okay, except for me. Nevertheless, the emphasis of "you're so quiet..." stood out clearly in her sentences, the intention of her impression on me that i could get was rather unpleasant to hear. It was like she also suggested that "I'm an overly quiet person that she could hardly get any benefit from me, there were no good things she had from her relationship with me." made me wonder if.. am i wrong for being like that?

Am i wrong for being quiet? 

Does people wrong for being her own self?

Then, why wouldn't people say, why are you so talkative? People barely making a fuss about how talkative someone in some situation, the talkative person would likely being praised here and there instead. Using the same logic, so why does being quiet have to be such a huge problem?

Extraversion is overhyped. 

I have no hatred towards extrovert, some of my friends are them, but the insensitive desire that some extroverts make towards people who doesn't act like them is pathetic. 

I got such impression above frequently enough since i was in the school grade. At that time, i have no idea about my true self. The lack of my personality might be overlooked by the self-image of smart student that always having good grades, thus i tended to be apathetic about my character issues. My friends said to me, my act for not giving much attention to my surrounding was rude, and I was completely aware to admit it. The quiet version of me back then is something that i still try to improve and transform the "quiet" energy from bad to the good one until now. Have i improved well? Well, it depends on how we look with the vision of extrovert or introvert. 

In fact, i didn't push my self to be socially extrovert, rather being a more open and friendly enough to talk with people. If i'm not the one who approaches first, then i have to be more approachable to someone did the move first. 

Sometimes it sucks, definitely. But, i try again next time.

Introvert tends to be selectively social and more comfortable to talk one by one. In the mean time, i work focusing on which approach i feel most comfortable and suitable to me. Certainly, it went better.

So, when people portray my quiet personality with such bad intentions, i know that she, or that person doesn't mean to be my friend until then. She complemented her description by a judgemental conclusion rooted in her false thought that "I'm permanently quiet." which actually means i subconsciously build a barrier to people when I don't feel comfortable around them to express myself, which is something that isn't obligatory have to do in an organization, and I could tell that she would never know me better in the future.

The person that makes us feel wrong and uncomfortable for being ourself is the worst. 

But let them be.

You can still shake the world gently even if you are a silent thunder. Keep up the courage to be a soft-spoken person. You rock the way you are, dear.